hello me and bry have been together 9 yrs he brought my other 3 up as dad and we had our own child i thought thing were ok untill 1 day some mates told me bry had been talking to his cousin about us well i blew because every 1 up the loacl town knew before me and it was very personal so i got home phoned him come to mine i said he came told him what had been said and other things come out i was so angry more so the fact me and his slagy cousin had been sending him dirty sex texts well his cousin is married to his brother welli fliped words like (ive heard you good with your tounge) what would you have said so i went and told brys family and she had been texting her fatherin law and her brother in law but nothing was done untill jo brys sister saw her in the kitchen with her hubby and was all over him jo punched her hit him and walked out well all that blew over
bry said he as some things inis head to sort out and with all the reading ive had from fellow friend s here you are all right bless you all BUT
I can sit here waiting i need to move on with or with out him he wont let me move a few weeks back a friend tryed it on with me made it plan they wanted to sleep with me and they threw hints and him tolet him know so he called me and asked me he went mental down the phone went rantting to his momhe come down talked and had the most wicked sex about 2 weeks after he blew up again because that person turned up at my house so bry said me or them so i explained to this other person being kind they understood backed off bry asked me to change my phone numbers for a while he evenbacked off from haing the kids he would only have deanna-rae but he keeps coming and saying im there dad too i brought um up and ive never stoped him seeing or having them when he wants at the momment
he hind up the flat, sleeps odd times . gone mad about cleaning only lets the kids to his flat has days wre he un plugs the phone and switchs the moblie off
says his buzy and he up his flat i think he like s his own space at the mo and i know he as found out some family stuff as his half sister come in to his life about 2 months ago he as never got over his dad dieing and the familt riped him off with money and a house and a car it was just complete greed there was a will but the family distroyed it no copy was ever left leagaly
i know he as a lot of issues that need sorting and isnt feeling very posstive at the mo i tell him i love him and miss him and the kids ive told him forward and not backwards is the way to go
i think he needs time to heal and let go of the grief
im hopeing for a move soon too being where i am dont help me with my disabled needs and nor bry as this house is only tiny and my wheel chair i cant get around in i have to us my cruches
i know he wont let me go he still has to have some form of control with us and even me he likes to know where i am if ive been to his moms or town i dont call him i let him call me and talk on msn he chops and changes his mind all the time and has problems remembering what he as said and done and he will swear black and blue hes told you it and he aint.he wont join in family active stuff yet. wont eat here only rare.i also get do what youlike that why i get confussed with him 1 minute he care next he is nasty but is ok after
i have asked for harmony to the family and relationships asked for prayers and healing for him
i hope all this with bry lifts soon with help from god and angels i really need to put it behind me it so frustrating for me i pray for a house move too
its weried our daughter as been asking him for a baby brother more so over the last 3-4 weeks and hes told her soon and it my birthday june im hopeing he will offer t



Caz,
I think the best I can do for you is to send some Reiki to the whole situation. I'm sure others who are in, or have been through similar situations will be able to offer better advice than I ever could in this case.
All I know is that control is a major contributor to everyones lives and we have to be careful that we don't try and take control or let ourselves be controlled beyond our own comfort zone. If we are controlled it feels like it drains our energy and we become weakened and more controlled. If we control then we take energy from others, even those we love, and we feed off it until we create a state of affairs that we can't reverse and things don't happen how we want them to and people end up getting hurt.
Reiki on it's way....
Love and Reiki Hugs



thank you for sending that greatfully recvied
hugs cazwix



I can't offer advice, only lots of love to you, to Bry and to your children. I hope you get your move, and that you are all happy very soon,
Sharonxxx[sm=1kis.gif]



thanks sharon
ive been reading most the posts and it seem to biol down to one thing with these men not knowing what they want and being selfish
im going to say to every one on here that as posted on this thread stick to your guns grass is always greener on the other side and theres alway some one special out there and were all beautiful in side and out
love and hugs cazwix



Hi Cazwix,
I think Giles and Sharon have the best advice. I just wanted you to know I'd read and re-read what you wrote and all that came to me was to tell you to be strong, take care of yourself and yourkids and to do what you know is right and good. Even if it's not the easiest choice.
I am sending love, prayers, and positive thoughts for you and yours. I truly hope for the best possible outcome for you all! Love from Jennifer