You know the routine.
I've been in a long distance relationship for over a year now: UK - US. Anyway, she's finished it today. She told me sincerely that she just didn't have the heart to carry it on anymore. I was dependent on her. She was my life. So now what do I have? I know people always reassure that you'll find someone else etc, but 1) That's hardly what you want to hear, and 2) I've never been at all good with the opposite sex (hence falling online). But I also think it's because online you have a far greater means of finding someone 'right' for you, as I did, yet alas circumstances didn't work.
It feels like the last of my spirit has been sucked dry.
Maybe this is just the initial effect talking, but I needed to vent.
Thanks.


Well Wayne , break ups are not easy and there is no such thing as an easy break up and yes you do feel like your life has been sucked out . But its o/k to vent .

Its good that your ex sincerely told you that the relationship is over , sounds like she has many good qualities about her .

Every one handles it different , but I have found when there is a parting that its best not to have any contact with the other partner . Then you can both find your own space and if contact is later made you have both "moved on " and can still be sorta friends

:hi: wish you well


Frankly, what I would do in a break-up situation is that I would think about all the negative qualities of the other person and all the incompatibilities between me and her, I would emphasize them so much that I could convince myself that it was good to break up, and this would make it easier to let go.
I would know that this is not a completely honest attitude, but it's what I would do, and what would help me.


Yeah, breakups can take a lot out of a person....
I usually deal with breakups by being very angry and bitching to anyone who will listen and writing lots of angry journal entries, and working out like crazy with "I hate you" music playing in my headphones. This is combined with chocolate and random crying sessions. Then when it's finally all out of me I feel calm and don't much think of it anymore. This may not be the best way to handle things but I think expressing emotions is very important. It's okay to feel sucked dry, and to feel like venting and whatever else - so long as its not forever.


I'm very sorry to hear this. I hate break ups. It will be very difficult for a while, then as time goes on, the days or moments you feel bad about it will be further and further apart.
Did you break up with someone before this most recent GF? If so, remind yourself that each break up is clearing the way for the next person. I know it won't make you feel better now, but eventually you can think of it that way.
For a while just do whatever helps you feel better (that's not too destructive!). I like to listen to a lot of sad music to try to force out some of the sadness. After a while it's like you get tired of being sad and start taking interest in other things.


just wanted to send virtual xoxoxox's your way. break ups suck. all the advice above is so good! thalia took the words right out of my mouth with what i came to say.
i hope you're feeling better :)
xoxo


There's nothing worth living for anymore.


1667856) There's nothing worth living for anymore. I sometimes feel the same way, and have to remind myself that I'm here for a reason, just as you are.
I find that the best way to stop feeling sorry for myself is to do something for someone (or something) else.
Keep yourself busy. Plenty of places need volunteers (and it's a good way to meet people).
The world especially needs veg*ns.


1667664) Frankly, what I would do in a break-up situation is that I would think about all the negative qualities of the other person and all the incompatibilities between me and her, I would emphasize them so much that I could convince myself that it was good to break up, and this would make it easier to let go.
I would know that this is not a completely honest attitude, but it's what I would do, and what would help me. I would recommend to absolutely NOT do that. But that's just my opinion.
I've been there (we went back together afterwards but the breakup was terrible). I used to spend my days online and then when he broke up I was like "what ever am I supposed to do with my days?" and I had no idea how to "get back to a normal life" (and I really didn't want to). There's nothing I recommend apart from trying to see people and just waiting it out. There's no "getting-over" recipes so just trust that time will make it better. You might not want it to get better yet, but that's what is going to happen and you'll be glad once you're over the whole thing.
I'm sorry for the uselessness of my post. Maybe I just wanted to say I had been there and :hug: